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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is your concern traveling with a newborn, or the possible germs?

I had to travel with a 10 day old baby.  Ten hour trip, split into two days -- after a c-section.  Not even a little bit enjoyable, but still doable.[/quote]

My concern is both since I, too, will be having a csection.  From what I've been told by everyone around me ("in real life") - his mother, his sisters, my mother, etc. - this really isn't a big deal.  They're all telling me that, if all goes well, by 7 weeks I'll be healed from the section, the baby will still be in super sleepy mode and will travel well in the car, and that I'll just manage the germs by telling anyone who is sniffling, etc. to back off.  Nobody else seems to think it's at all a big deal.

I do plan to breastfeed so I'd prefer not to send DH and DC alone since it's for 3 nights.  I'm not at all against formula feeding, I just want to give breastfeeding a shot.

To the PP who had the smallish baby despite being tall herself (and her husband being tall), was growth restriction in utero (IUGR) ever diagnosed?  Were you ever told while pregnant that the baby was measuring small for his / her gestational age?  Did anything special have to be done once your DC was born?  NICU stay?  Special formula feeding?  Etc.?  We're similarly baffled in hearing our baby is going to be small since I was born over 8 lbs, DH was born over 7 lbs, I'm 5'7 and my husband is 6'2 and I have a normal to curvy build (DH is very thin an has to work extra hard to put on muscle and absolutely cannot put on fat).  Thanks![/quote]

Both my mother and my MIL gave me out-dated recommendations about not taking pain meds, things like that.  Do not trust their memories of post-partum life.  No way, no how.  They have very rose-colored glasses at this point.  Especially your ILs, who just want to see the baby.

You may be up to a seven-hour drive, and maybe some babies are fine at seven weeks, but 6-8 weeks is really the peak of fussiness.  My baby didn't nap much at all at that age unless it was on my lap--with intermittent breast-feeding.  No way we could have done that in the car.

It's a lot to ask of you and DH.  You'll be the ones suffering, you in particular, for other people's pleasure in seeing the baby.  If it would also make you happy to see them, great, but, man, they should be understanding if you skip this year.  They can make the seven-hour drive themselves to come see you if they're so eager to meet the baby![/quote]

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