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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wasn't "college material." My parents pushed me towards learning a job that would allow me to support myself. I didn't move out until I was 23. I've been fired from a lot of jobs. Being a person is really, really hard. There's really just no good solution. [/quote]

Can you explain what your diagnosis is and why you were fired from jobs? What do you wish that your parents have done differently? [/quote]

My diagnosis is a slew of severe learning disabilities. I've been fired from jobs because I have a hard time catching on - sometimes to things I've been specifically told to do and sometimes to things I was supposed to pick up without being told but didn't. So when my boss said (admin asst) to highlight who is getting the cc of the letter and I forget that, he gets pissed. If he gets pissed too many times, I get fired. And there are like a thousand little details like that for me to remember. Or he'll teach me how to do something in Excel and I won't be able to remember it for the future. You might say "why not just write it down?" but there are like 40 things to write down in a ten minute period - there's no time for that. Or he'll tell me how to do something in Excel and half do it for me and I won't truly understand what he told me to do so I can't write it down even if there IS time.

I have no idea what to say I wish my parents did differently - other than give me a couple million dollars to support myself without a job. I could spend a little of it to buy a condo and invest the rest and live off the interest. Emotionally, it would help if when I've sneaked out of work to call them hysterically crying they didn't just say "Well, I don't know what to tell you."  They always imply that all I need to do is just TRY harder. It's like they're saying "just try harder to fly off the roof!" and aren't hearing me when I say "but I don't have wings - i'm going to crash every SINGLE time!" [/quote]

Oh my gosh- please see if you can get some treatment and support- I have family members who would have led different lives with treatment and support for learning disabilities. Look into what insurance will pay for a neuro psych evaluation. You have better more detailed advice from others but your post just kind of breaks my heart. I wish you the best. [/quote]

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