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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's a lot of paranoia on this thread. Many of these posters envision sexless 15 year-olds who have passing girl crushes and if they only refrain from acting on them they will grow up to heterosexual.

And then there's this crap about being "pro-gay," as if OP's DD's sexuality is some kind of political position. As if its something OP can or should control.

Fifteen year-olds are sexual beings. I happen to believe its too young for full sexual activity but I also think that 15 year-olds will begin to experiment, will have sexual longings and fantasies and all of this is normal and age appropriate.

This relationship will not define OP's DD's sexual orientation. What defines that is the range of her attraction and how she chooses to act over time. Its in her head and heart and not the result of a single relationship. She may be thinking "this feels right, I'm a lesbian," in which case respect that, she's a lesbian. Or she may be thinking "this feels right," with a period on the end. In which case, thats all she's feeling.

But don't dismiss it as a girl crush. Thats just insulting. She's in a relationship, its real and its happening. Obviously what happens next is complex. But really many of you need to get a clue before your own children reach this age because if this is your attitude you will not have the kind of open communication OP has with her DD.[/quote]

Hmm, I thought the responses were pretty low key and even handed. I didn't read any paranoia or negativity toward being gay.[/quote]

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