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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Baby is 10 months. She's been back 6, but is leaving the firm to take a government job with more reliable schedule and catastrophically lower pay. But she's not enthusiastic about the move, because 9 to 5 still feels to her like it will be too few hours with the kid. For me, an hour in the morning and two at night is plenty on weekdays. Not for her. I cannot tell her to "suck it up." [/quote]

OP, instead of trying to come up with some magical solution that will work for everyone, just focus on supporting how she is feeling right now. Just listen to her and paraphrase back what she's saying. No problem solving: "So it's really important that you get to spend several hour a day with Pierpont. And your worried that this new govt job, while fewer hours than the other job, still won't get you the hours you want with him."  And then just listen some more.

Sometimes I'm just feeling frustrated or upset by a situation, and I need to just be "in that moment." I get that it sucks and that there's not a lot of solutions. I don't need someone to fix it because I know it can't be fixed. I just need someone to "get" my frustration. Then I move on and "suck it up." Just because she's upset doesn't mean she's expecting you to fix it or that she can't deal with it. I hope that makes sense. [/quote]

Yes, op, consider this. She may just want to vent and complain even if there it's no workable solution right now. Listen to her.[/quote]

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