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I'm 38 and was tested and diagnosed when I was 19. I don't know why I wasn't treated. But I do have the test results on paper from a psychologist from then. [/quote]

You are about the same age as my LD sibling.  Frankly, back then "diagnosis" wasn't very clear and many "disorders" like Central Auditory Processing, were still in the process of being established.  Not much was known about "treatment" -- neither in terms of drugs (like for ADD) or in terms of "academic therapy" (like certain types of instructional programs).

My parents and many teachers also assumed that my sibling was just not trying hard enough, and this has caused a lot of hard feelings between my sibling toward our parents.  As a parent of an LD child myself, I have sympathy for both the parents and the children caught in this situation.  My sibling is mad because he feels like my parents failed in their parental duty.  Yet, my parents did not have access to information about disorders in the way we do today.  I can't imagine handling this for my LD child without the amazing amounts of information I have been able to research via the internet.  In addition, disability law was far less developed back then, and my sibling didn't have the legal and educational protections that my child has available today.

I would really encourage you to go and get a full neuropsychological assessment -- some of it may even be covered by health insurance, particularly if you frame the need for the assessment as one to assist with whole life functioning and to evaluate for ADD, depression, anxiety, etc.  The diagnostic tools today are better, and there are more "treatment" recommendations.

It may be overwhelming to sift through all the information about your situation.  If your parents aren't receptive, perhaps you have a close friend, a relative or a partner who could help you research and sort out whether academic tutoring, organizational coaching, technological assistance, specific social/pragmatic teaching, a different line of work, or disability protections could help you.  I also think that an ongoing relationship with a good psychologist skilled with LDs could help you manage work-related anxiety and depression and help you think of ways to compensate and deal with the work environment.

I second the PP below who praised your persistence.  That is a real strength -- despite many difficulties you have managed to move out of the house and keep your own place.  [/quote]

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