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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got the same way when my boyfriend was entertaining relatives in town. Maybe some of the DCUMs who've been married for a long time have forgotten about this stage of dating.

I tried very hard to be patient. I knew he was busy, but after about 6 or 7 days, it was really bothering me. All I needed was a little reassurance. I sent a text that said I knew he was busy, but not getting a response for a week was making me a little mental. He must have understood because he called me and we talked for a few minutes. He mentioned it the week after, like he was concerned I was angry. I told him I asked for attention when I needed it and he obliged and that I appreciated it. I wasn't bitchy or demanding, just honest. We agreed asking directly was best. [/quote]

There's a big difference between not responding to a girlfriend's request for 6-7 days and what the OP is describing.[/quote]

I don't think it is. A change in behavior would make a lot of women feel like this. She needs reassurance and it isn't unreasonable. If she calls him up and says she needs more hearts or smiley faces a day, he's going to get pissed or weirded out. If she approaches it in a way he can understand it, they'll both be better off for it. [/quote]

Needing constant reassurance is the definition of needy. And no - most- women wouldn't feel that way. Most adult woman aren't that needy, they have at least some basic amount of independence.[/quote]

After a change in behavior? I disagree. There are relationship books that describe the same thing. [/quote]

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