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[quote=Anonymous]I think I started off as a good DIL...always welcomed his parents to our house, got thoughtful gifts, remembered to send cards/flowers for birthdays/mothers day, called to check in...etc.  However my MIL really did feel as if she was "loosing a son" my husband is her "perfect" child...and the snarky comments/manipulation started early.  About 3 years in I tired of trying as much, but then we had our first child. It is really important to me that my DD has a good relationship with her grandparents. His parents have a lot happening with his sister and her kids ( divorce/loss of job) and his sister lives down the street from his parents while we live 9 hours away--which means his parents have only visited us about 3 times since DD has been born. For her bday/xmas when they ask what she wants all I ever say is no toys/gifts, we just want them to visit! DHs job makes traveling very difficult for us , while my job doesn't offer a ton of vacation-- we have visited them about 3 times since DD has been born--however they are both retired and would love if they could come here for a longer visit, we offer our home and we cook when they come, clean, take care of everything--just want them to spend time with DD. It frustrates me that they don't make an effort, so i have found myself stopping to try as much.. and honestly I do see myself becoming snarky/not the best DIL.   When I hear friends who never want their inlaws to come, I feel I have to at least have a C rating as a DIL for wanting them to come, but overall I know I could do better...I just have lost the will to care as much at this point.  On the other hand my husband LOVES my parents, they have an amazing relationship...my parents have put in a lot of time and effort to get to know my DH as well.[/quote]

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