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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When did this board turn so nasty?  [/quote]

Its always been this way when it comes to any remotely complicated problems with kids, unfortunatly.

This whole idea of a pouncing on a behavior as "bad kid" is not just mean, its creepy. It should be of great concern to us all. People who think like this exist everywhere, including our schools.

Is there such a thing as a "bad" kid? Well, its not  a term I would use, but sure, there is such a thing as a kid who has really challenging problems. And we know that adult sociopaths _generally_ presented something at least off during their childhood.

SHORT OF THAT, for the love of God, I don't know why on earth people need to be so ready to judge so harshly and without empathy or regard for the true complexity of humans. We are talking about cutting in line. Really, seriously. That is what is being talked about. And the  child reacted honestly. GOOD FOR HIM. People need to get a grip. Kids have so many things to teach us adults. This was a teachable moment,  but the real person who needed the lesson, the overreacting MOM and everyone who thinks like her, aren't getting schooled.[/quote]

I would say the learning experience is that some grown-ups are unfair, overreact, and yell. [b]The proper response is to apologize, agree, leave, not yell back. It's not good for a five year old to yell back.[/b] That's never a helpful response and, in other circumstances, could get him in much worse trouble.[/quote]

OP already addressed that she corrected her sons reaction. My point is that people on DCUM react to things in black and white labels and with these parenting absolutes. From OP's post it was clear she responded appropriately in every way and by anyone's standards parents properly. SHe was trying to get feedback on how to process the one thing she as a parent CANT control, which is overreacting and nasty people.

To that end, I stick by my assertion that although the kids response apparently doesn't pass your muster, it was an honest message to the overreacting mom, and as such it has INTRINSIC VALUE as something to think about, at least as much, and perhaps more, as does any topic regarding "appropriate behavior".[/quote]

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