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[quote=Anonymous]My husband also regresses when we see his family--he turns back into a 12 year old boy. At home he cleans, does dishes, cooks-- is a true partner.  With his family it is as if he has no idea how to do ANYTHING.  It is very much the woman clean up/cook/everything the men watch tv, relax. However he is still great with our children in front of them. He also reverts back to not being able to question/stand up to/challenge his parents at all...they have not progressed to an adult relationship, very much still the parent/child dynamic.  It used to infuriate me, his father would say something disrespectful/manipulative/ridiculous ( an example: I work out of the house and he would constantly make disparaging comments regarding this and my children)--while my husband would say nothing. It has caused many arguments/discussions in our 10 year marriage. I have recently taken to the same frame of mind as a PP and I highly suggest it. Let DH plan trips/visits ( they happen a lot less frequent)...and as often as you can plan for middle ground/have them come to you and stay in a hotel, or when you go there don't stay with them.  When we do have to visit DHs home we now stay with a college friend of ours or a friend of his parents who have a guest house..we say we need more room with the kids, but honestly it has made the interactions so much more bearable. Good luck OP, you are not alone. I know it sucks, I hate seeing a version of my husband that I don't even like. We have a great marriage are genuinely happy and I love him with all my heart, but the version of him with his parents is not that man and its always tough/infuriating. [/quote]

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