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You both need counseling.  Marriage and depression for your DH and for you marriage and 1) To deal with the new wealth- both of you have created (it isn't just you). 2) To deal with the antiquated ideas of who should be the provider and who should be the care giver.  A family works together to make things work- money is just part of it.  3) To help you see yourself in a partnership with your DH where each does different things toward that partnership.  4) To realize how fortunate you have it and acknowledge the luck you have received in addition to your hard work.  There are many people out there who have done the exact same thing you have done but do not have a $750; job to show for it- or even a $100k job.  5)To realize that money isn't everything or necessarily the end goal of life. - This is where you growing up poor has impacted your perception- you will also have to have counseling when your children seem to not appreciate their wealth as much as you think they should.  Money does not buy happiness.  It makes things easier- for sure- but we all have the same issues- rich or poor- and our issue travel with us as a go from place to place.

Your children deserve it (the counseling for you and your DH).  Family comes first.  Then career.  You can have this high end career, but you need to recognize the work it takes from your DH to support you so you can do it.  (The first place will be to recognizes the sacrifices he has already made to move to the town so you could go to school....)

Good luck, this will be a hard transition.  I think it will go more smoothly if you let go of "what should be" and embrace "what is".  [/quote]

OP, this PP has written what I believe is very wise advise. This goes deeper than you may realize. It's not just about money. It's about attitudes towards money, gender roles, life priorities.[/quote]

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