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Reply to "7 yr relationship, no ring yet - am I wasting my time?"
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] And for God's sake stop seeing it as wasting time! You have a good man it seems. The time you are spending or spent together gave you much emotional, physical/sexual, and possibly professional benefits as well. LTRs are never time wasters, they are learning curves and help us navigate different seasons in our lives. I sound like a father and I'm just 33 yo :) :) ...been through a lot and took a lot of ME time to understand life, so it follows. All the best OP! [/quote] This all depends on whether the OP wants to have kids eventually. As one PP wrote, she "wasted" 8 years of her life in two LRTs and ended up only having one child, when she wanted 2-3, because she married at 40. For a woman there is the unfortunately reality of the biological clock - if she's interested in having kids. Men don't have quite so much pressure. When I met my DH I was 32 and he was 41 and we went on to have two kids. If the ages had been reversed and I'd been 41 it would have been unlikely we'd have had two children without IVF and a lot of luck. DH was ready to settle down already in his mid-30s but unfortunately he'd had a lot of bad luck in relationships. I dated and had fun up until I was around 28-30 when I realized that I really wanted to settle down and have kids. Then I started to give myself a rule - I'd date a guy for 3 months but if the relationship was clearly going nowhere I'd end things. I was in that mode when I met DH but from the moment I met him I knew that he was different. Partly because we were just really compatible but also because he was very committed right from the beginning.[/quote]
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