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[quote=Anonymous]I was in your situation, OP.  Been dating my BF (now DH) for 6 years.  We both had decent jobs-combined income of 80k in a city where cost of living was significantly lower.  We had been living together for 5 years. We loved each other but in his mind, we wouldn't get married until we were ready to have kids.  At the time, I was really interested in moving overseas for work and was getting to the point that unless we were married, I was going to do it.  So that's pretty much what I told him.  I left for a job in another state for three months and told him that when I got back I would be moving to Switzerland unless he gave me a reason to stay.  Which he did-finally proposed the day I was leaving for my job out of state and now we've been happily married for 9 years.

Some guys just need a little push.  Make it clear that you love him and want to be with him, but also that you are ready to move on with your life if he isn't ready to make the commitment.  Do you live together? If so, tell him that you are moving out once the lease is up.  If not, tell him you're done and that he knows where to find you if he figures out what he wants - meanwhile move on with your life.  Hang out with friends, take on a new hobby, date, meet new people, and keep busy![/quote]

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