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[quote=Anonymous]OP, your situation sounds a little bit like ours, now 8 years ago. My parents had been married for 40 years, my mother was the heartbeat of the family and of a huge circle of friends, my father spent the final 7 managing my mother's cancer treatment, and despite the fact that her death was not really unexpected, we were all in shock and he was totally bereft with grief. One of my brothers basically lived with him much of the time for the first few months, the other two of us visited often (but not every weekend.)

We didn't have issues like you're dealing with now, but there were similar things that provoked controversies. They all seem really silly now but it's easy to get caught up in petty disagreements when your world has been turned upside down. My father wanted and needed lots of caretaking, but at the same time he didn't like anything that smacked of paternalism or superiority. My very assertive (and well-meaning) SIL would clean out the fridge or pantry occasionally and dump tons of outdated condiments, etc., and that made my dad totally furious. I totally get why you are doing what you're doing, but in hindsight I can see why this sort of thing can feel like an intrusion and a slap in the face to someone who lives in the home.[/quote]

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