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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your father is using his anxiety and grief to control all of you.  How long do you intend to drive 300 miles every week because he can't stand to be alone?  The rest of your life?  How long do you intend to live in a mausoleum/hoard/dump because the notion of throwing away a sponge is upsetting?

Can you see that this is crazy?  Time for a family meeting in which you draw boundaries.  It's not cruel to say that Dad needs to start learning to live his life as an adult.  If he is so prostrate with grief he can't be alone, he either [b](1) moves (2) checks into a hospital (3) sees a therapist.[/b][/quote]

Driving 300 miles every weekend? Wow. Sounds like your dad is a real piece of work since he has no friends to socialize with and help him through this time. He has no other activities/hobbies to keep him occupied? Not healthy at all.

I believe in helping people but not being a doormat or enabling bad/detrimental behavior.[/quote]

OP here. How did this thread turn into a discourse over my father's emotional or mental well being? My mother died less than five weeks ago and they were married 51 years. My father was her primary caregiver during the past seven years since her cancer diagnosis. You want me to go tell my father he's a piece of work because he is still grieving five weeks after her death now? PP, YOU are a piece of something, but "work" was not the first thing that came to my mind.  God help you when you are on your death bed because if you raised your children with your philosophy, they are certainly not going to help you. My father is not just just a "person"; he's my FATHER.[/quote]

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