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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ladies, if you're thinking about divorce, keep in mind:

1. No man wants to raise (or deal with, or see, or hear) some other man's spawn.

2. You're a lot less physically attractive than you were before you got married the first time. The father of your children can overlook that. Other men, not so much.[/quote]

This isn't quite true. Other, single men with children are usually OK with women who have kids.

That being said, don't get mad at childless men who are scared away by your kids. Children are scary when you don't have any, and it's honestly a lot to ask of someone who has never has children.[/quote]

I'm not the "troll" poster, but he does make a very valid point about many (not all) single, childless men not wanting to raise another man's child.  My first wife came with a son attached, and I would not do that again ever.  Her son is a good guy, etc., etc., but the relationship dynamics are generally very skewed.  There are childless guys, generally ones without so many options, who will step up, but it's a numbers game, and your pool is limited so the odds are against you.

Single fathers, on the other hand (as the PP points out) are a much much better bet, and you can find some very high quality ones.  They are also true peers, as they are your equal in having kids (and aren't as susceptible to pulling the "oh, my child" trump card).  This is a real issue of power dynamics, but more importantly they will "get it" when you put your kid ahead of them, and also, not be terribly hesistant to putting their kid ahead of you...which you will of course understand intuitively and not hold against them.   Yes, there's some bitterness and truth in what I'm pointing out here.

On the #2 point: attractiveness - this is complete and utter BS.  Plenty of moms are super-hot.  The baby does not "ruin" you or make you less attractive.  I know lots of childless women who are out-of-shape slobs too.  That's ridiculous.[/quote]

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