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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks, all. I will post after to let you know if it comes up. I have decided to say something if they raise his absence or making any anti-gay remarks, not in a super confrontational way but just so they are aware that their anti-gay statements have created an estrangement with someone they love. Maybe it won't change their hearts, but maybe at least they will think twice about who they are hurting when they say such things. I, too, agree that it's an example that I need to set for my kids to speak out against prejudice. BTW, my brother has no interest in going to these family gatherings and I can pretty much guarantee he never will, given some of their past statements and FB rants about traditional marriage. [b]The family actually tries to reach out to him -- I know several have told me they have sent him messages, tried to call, sent wedding invitations and he doesn't respond. The organizers of this year's family reunion created a FB group for it and added him, but I noticed that he removed himself from it. [/b]I don't know if they get why that might be and so I think it's time I will let them know if they ask.[/quote]

So, if you want to mend family fences, ask if your brother and his partner would tolerate coming to a family function at your house with your family and one or two of the estranged relatives at a time. When you are the host, you have a lot more control over addressing the airing of anti-homosexual comments "Please don't say that here.  We're trying to raise our children to be tolerant and accepting of gay friends and family."  He might feel more comfortable getting reacquainted with the extended family in smaller groups and in a supportive atmosphere where you, the host, are on his side.  You could have events once or twice a year and invite different extended family members so that he isn't overwhelmed by "Aunt Mildred" and "Uncle Frank" every time.[/quote]

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