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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your fiancé doesn't share your views of sex and relationships...don't marry him. I have no problem with FWB or hook ups, but that is something pretty fundamental that you as a couple need to agree on if it is a big deal etc.

I personally know most of DHs ex lovers and FWBs and he knows most of mine. Those that we are still friendly with were at our wedding.

I'm not saying that you have to know each other's exact numbers, but having a similar outlook on sexual mores is important for marriage?[/quote]

Well right now we DO have same outlooks.  I guess in the past we didn`t.  I`m pretty sure he`s never had FWB or hookups like you say. So if he finds out I did he`s not going to be happy.

[b]I know telling him is the right thing to do. It`s just like I said I don`t know how to do that.  Has anyone had a same situation and if you did how would you recommend i approach this[/b][/quote]

OP,
I think no one is giving you the advice on how to tell him because they were upfront in the beginning of the relationship. You have to realize you dug yourself into a deep hole and expect he will be angry that you kept this from him. He might call off the wedding, but that's why you are afraid to tell him, isn't it?

[i]You cannot have a happy marriage built on lies[/i]. You need to sit him down and say "I have something I need to tell you. Or I need to clear the air about something." You said these exes were one night stands or FWB, so you didn't actually date them. Tell him that. He needs to know who you were. If he can get past the lying (and his impression of you), then you will be ok. If he can't, then better he leave you now than in a few months or years.

Next time, be honest about who you are.

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