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[quote=Anonymous]Good grief, I get so sick of all the Sancti-mommies.  You know what---until you have parented a kid with ADHD, attachment disorder and ODD, then you just do not get how difficult even the most routine things can be.

Let me give an example----OP---you can see if this resonates with you.  I sat in the pediatrician's office this morning and watched a mom with her 7 year old daughter.  The nurse had just said that she was checking the child's chart to see if she needed any vaccinations.  The child said, worriedly, "I don't want a shot . . . . "  Her mom said reassureingly, "I know, honey.  And you may not have to get one---the nurse is just going to check."  The child nodded, trustingly, and went back to her book.

Now, had that been my TEN year old with FASD, ADHD and attachment disorder---everything would have rapidly spun out of control.  First, she would have immediately fixated completely and absolutely on the issue that SHE MIGHT BE GETTING A SHOT.  (Fixation being an FASD characteristic).  Then she would have increased her volume level along with her anxiety (Inability to appreciate volume levels being another FASD trait).  "MOMMY!  I DON'T WANT A SHOT!"
Had I tried the same reassuring tone and logic as the mom I watched, it would have fallen on deaf ears (since lack of trust in parental figures is attachment related, and inability to reason and appreciate logic is an FASD problem).

We would have quickly moved on (had a shot been required)---into screaming meltdown.  Possibly resulting in her needing to  held down by one or more nurse in order to get the vaccination. She is TEN---not 2 or 3 or 4---but another hallmark of FASD is dysmaturity (i.e., being much developmentally much younger than chronological age)  Do you know how hard it is to get an innoculation into a writhing, screaming, 10 year old?

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