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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Funny to see this thread that I started a really long time ago.  I am a SAHM for a year now and feel that I am pretty good at it.  I enjoy spending all day with my child and I enjoy the homemaking aspect too.  I was feeling lonely so I started a mom's group that has become very successful and provides a way for me and my child to do fun activities and meet new people, so running my mom's group takes up a fair amount of time and makes me feel like I am using some of my work-related skills.

Overall I feel like I am much more successful at being a SAHM and taking care of the house than I ever was at any of my jobs.  I get a lot of satisfaction from managing the home, cleaning and doing laundry.  I also enjoy the lower stress level of being at home rather than working.  I often think back to my micromanaging boss and how belitted I would feel after our weekly meetings.  I left the job on good terms, resigned with more than 2 weeks notice, etc., but because I was getting mediocre performance reviews towards the end of the job, I don't think I would get a positive reference from it, and that really makes me feel sad.  If I were to decide to work again I would probably start out doing some kind of professional volunteering, in order to get a positive recent reference.

I feel really sad about the social aspect of the job too.  Before I left I sent out an email to all my colleagues with my contact info and said I'd love to keep in touch.  Not a single person has emailed me, which I feel really bummed about.  My husband, who has been at his job for 6 years, says that if he resigned and sent colleagues his contact info that no one would email him either.

Regarding the possible ADHD and low energy, I don't find that they are issues being a SAHM because I can nap when my child naps if I am tired, so that really helps with the low energy issue.  The ADHD has not been an issue being a SAHM, probably because I'm not juggling 5 different projects with a million tiny details at once.

Even though I like being a SAHM, everything isn't perfect.  I really struggle on a daily basis with the fact that I no longer have a professional identity and that I did enjoy many aspects of my work.  I miss some aspects of working--such as the aspect of helping people and feeling a part of an organization, and feeling like I was learning new skills and adding to my resume.

I also feel very judged by working moms when I meet them at various mom-related events and activities--I often get the comment from them "I went back to work as soon as I could--I could never do what you do all day."  It makes me feel like they feel I have nothing to contribute to society and that they don't want to get to know me because they assume I am "boring."

I also have gotten comments from family members (like my parents) about my 2 grad degrees that are gathering dust right now.  Overall, I think my self-confidence has diminshed after deciding to be a SAHM.  On the other hand, my social life has really blossomed since becoming a SAHM, and that is really important to me.

Overall when I think back to my last job, and past jobs, I was probably working at a C + or B - level if I had to grade myself.  I wish I had been able to do better, but the low energy and feeling overwhelmed really impacted my ability to do better work.[/quote]

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