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[quote=Anonymous]OP here - I have 5 min while I am in the car so this will be briefs. My mom spazzed out during a roommate convo and said that she would be so uncomfortable bc we only have 1 bathroom, what if they have lots of guests and/or they smoke pot (her perfect child, my brother, does and did from the time he was in HS so insert eye roll here). She continues to say that she doesn't think she has $600 a month and said that we are going to do whatever it is that we do and she just has to adjust, tears and all. She keeps saying she does not want to live alone and if she had her druthers, she'd go back to this place or that place where she had friends. We. Are talking about living within walking distance from her, people.

My brother took a job out of the country and extended his time there to avoid all of this. Although he also lived with us for free for almost a year, his plans when he gets back are to find an uber cool downtown condo bachelor pad. He is in his 20s and is very immature for his age and is extremely selfish. He is also out of touch with her aging issues and thinks she should just get a consulting job that is flexible. He is the Dosney Dad in this relationship. I do all of the difficult stuff, work through the day-to-day issues, provide for her and he comes home on vakay, takes her out to dinner and gives her an expensive spa gift card and poof. Last time he was here I shared with him that I wanted to get her on the HUD waitlist for the housing voucher and shared info about a few other resources I found and told him I wanted us to have a family discussion. He took her out and shared all of this with her, intimating that he found all of this stuff and she ranted and raved. Meanwhile, because we did not approach it together, when I held her accountable for following up, I was met with resistance and overall, we didn't have a plan of action. She also could not remember exactly what he said by the time I started revising the issues a couple of days later, and bc I am "bad" and my brother is "good," it was not received with thanks and gratitude for "looking all of this things up" for her.

That was a vent, I know, but the moral of the story is that I have to work around him, not with him. No other siblings. [/quote]

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