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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am I the only person in DC area who actually had a completely planned pregnancy in my 20s?  We had been married a couple years, had bought a home and had a steady income.

Sorry, it is just so odd that people act like all 20-something parents had oops/unplanned pregnancies and/or weren't ready to be parents.

I wish this poster well and have had plenty of 40 something mom friends.  I don't know that we really parented our kids all that differently.

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I think it's just hard to be ready in your 20s.  I had an unplanned pregnancy in my 20s and was just finishing grad school, renting a crappy apartment, and had no kind of career established.  It was rough for us.  Doesn't mean our experience is universal, though--you sound like you were absolutely ready!  And at the end of the day, our baby was worth every struggle 1000 times over.  She is the light of my days.[/quote]

Fair enough.  I just was throwing out there that not everyone in their 20s is partying and unsettled and/or struggling.  I knew plenty who were, but it just wasn't our reality.  I had finished grad school, had been working for 7ish years (not really a career, but steady work that paid)

Frankly, it is a strange thing to be a mom in your late 20s, which is absolutely the norm in most other areas of the country, yet to be treated as a some sort of young/almost teen parent.  It probably didn't help that I look pretty young, too - I was often mistaken for my child's nanny in the early years.

I don't knock parents in their 30s/40s and whatever their reasons for waiting to start a family.  I'm actually am just now having my second in my mid-late 30s.  I just get a little furstrated by the prevailing attitude in this area that parents in their 20s didn't plan ahead or whatever.  Granted, we didn't have millions in the bank or a huge home, but we were stable.[/quote]

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