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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH has been like this for years, yet whenever I offer to go back to work, and mention that if I do, he'd have to pick up more of the childcare, household chores, etc., he seems to lose interest in this idea! He is not a high earner, though, just makes enough for us to get by on one salary.

I think your DH is resentful because he is tired of working. I know my DH is tired of working. He finds me taking a nap, and thinks "I never get to take a nap during the day" and he gets resentful.

But when I point out to him all the things I do, and ask him if he'd like to switch places, he backs off completely, wanders away and "forgets" about it until the next time he starts to feel jealous that I have more freedom than he does, even though I do crappy jobs like cleaning the bathroom, buying groceries, fixing the washing machine (yes!), etc. etc.

FWIW, I've wanted for years to go back to work, had part time jobs, but DH has not made any effort to pick up the slack enough to allow me to get a job.

Maybe your DH just loves to complain, OP? I've been making a slow, steady effort to set up a home-based business, and DH has been helping me on occasion, even though I've begged him over and over to do so. It proves his hypocrisy, but I keep plugging away, knowing that I will get there in time, with or without his help. When that happens, he'll have nothing to complain about, and the balance of power will shift. I look forward to that day because I'm tired of absorbing his resentment. Men really are such babies. [/quote]

But once your kids are in school full time, the child care aspects of SAH diminish.[/quote]

Do you have kids?   If you did, you would know it is different, more complex and requires a whole set of skills [/quote]

Yes, I have two and I work full time. Once your kids are in school six to seven hours a day, that frees up a lot of time. I'm sorry, but groceries, cooking, cleaning, school activities, home repairs, etc., take up some time, but not 30 hours+ if you have basic organizational skills.[/quote]

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