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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Quote:- ( I am so sorry. Have you worked with a counsellor? )

(This is Alice UK)

No.  I have not spoken to a counsellor, it would just cause arguments because I couldn't tell her WHY I needed to talk to a counsellor, and sneaking around to see one would put more stress on me.  I am an emotional wreck  (especially at times like this when I'm being ignored completely).  I cried all last night, and have been in tears (privately) all day today.  I can't even eat, I am so upset.  I stay out of the way as much as possible - it's better than being treated like an invisible object.  I did nothing wrong.  I got accused of something I haven't even done.  I am being ignored by mum, because all I did was TRY and defend myself.

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Alice, your mother is NOT a nice person and she is NOT acting like a mother. You are nice to be there for your dad. But as far as your mother goes, see if you can just kind of go with the silent flow. Give up the idea that you should try to get her to talk to you or be nice to you. You need to mourn the mother you never had and never WILL have. She's sick, and she's not somebody you would choose to have in your life if you weren't related to her. She may be upset about your dad and unfairly taking that out on you as well.

Make sure you have time for positive things in your life (friends, a book club, going to a weekly matinee, biking, whatever). I hope you can find done detachment and peace in all this. Please keep us posted.

OP, glad your mom came around. My FIL is the king of being PA, and it's really a PIA![/quote]

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