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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]wow. i guess i'm outnumbered. grown up DD sounds not nice, imo.  The mom was trying to stay busy AND do something nice and helpful at the same time.  DD sounded crazy rude and condescending to me.  would you ever yell at another guest like that? (for no infractions by guest/mother, imo). and then the DD kept replying here, slamming the mom more.  maybe all the apologies sounded a little trite, given how much you yelled at her.  i don't think my mom is perfect. far from it, but i keep it to myself, out of respect.[/quote]

Until you have walked in another person's shoes you should keep quiet on the subject. The OP said she did NOT yell at her mother.

Voicing her displeasure and concern is not being rude, far from it. At 73 she could have suffered a heart attack, heat stroke, blood pressure problems, ruptured an existing hernia, fallen/tripped broken a bone etc...BTW, breaking a hip in many cases is a death sentence for a senior citizen. And if she was alone and had suffered some health crisis she could have died.

And to add to this, if she did hurt herself it would cause a giant disruption to her daughter's life. Besides working, taking care of her household/family an injury or illness would cause more stress, financial hardships as well as a logistical nightmare as to the recuperation, feeding/grooming, dr. visits etc... for this stubborn old goat. IT IS A VERY FRUSTRATING POSITION TO BE IN!

Many older people lose their sense of judgment and need the help and guidance of their loved ones, it is not disrespectful to point this out, but rather a loving and necessary gesture on the part of her daughter.

The pain is palpable in this woman's posts. It does not feel good to have these interchanges with someone you love. It is rather sad to see this person progressively turn into a miserable soul. I miss the person my mother used to be. I mourn what our relationship once was and will sadly never be again. And the roles certainly do switch; the mother is now a stubborn child and the child, a reluctant and thankless caretaker and guardian.

Add to this the insidious and corrosive tactics of a passive aggressive personality and you have a recipe for a miserable existence, on both the part of the instigator as well for the victim of this abuse.

And until you have suffered through the CONSTANT AND HABITUAL, torture of dealing with a nasty, unreasonable, spiteful passive aggressive loved one your opinion is less than worthless.[/quote]

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