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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just got back on the forum. I don't get why people are saying "37" guys. I"m not even really sure but it was more like 3 or 4 so not even close to the 30s like some of you  are saying. I just don't get that. ANyway, even the actual number would freak Ted out.

I'm worried that Ted will "re-evaluate" things if that makes sense. I'm scared that he might break up with me and I don't want that at all!!! He's really a great guy and to be honest I haven't met too many of those.

I also know that guys brag about stuff like that. Also if I remembered him, he can remember me too you know. I know everyone has a past. When Ted and I had the talk we both said we have a past. Ted's past is not quite so out there. When he asked about casual and short flings I said I didn't do that stuff. I know - not truthful but I thought it would bring us closer and in fact we really have gotten closer. Anyway, I can't now say it was just a fling or a one nighter or whatever without making it obvious that I wasn't truthful before.

It's great that some of you support me, butt was a huge mistake that never should have happened. No, I'm not doing it to every guy or anything but Ted would freak I think if he found out. It's just that if it comes from me it may be better than if he hears about it from somebody else. [/quote]

I know that people will say that the past is the past and you don't owe Ted any details about it.  But I don't agree with that.  I think that you should feel comfortable enough with the person that you care about that you don't have to fib or cover up unpleasant truths about yourself.  The person either accepts you faults and all, or they don't.  Better to find out early on if they can't accept some things about you.

You care about Ted but telling him what he wants to hear instead of answering his questions honestly isn't fair to him or to YOU.  I would sit down and fess up.  Let him know that you are embarrassed that you weren't more straight forward sooner but you care enough about him to set a few things straight....

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