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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I agree that your in laws are way overboard and your DH should make things clear to them, but there are ways to handle things.

Yes, their desire to babysit is about them, but it still means that you will get great care from them (unless you have reason to think otherwise).  Be nice about their offers and say you aren't ready but you will be excited to get a night out after you go back to work and perhaps they can babysit then?
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And if you are giving a bottle, perhaps they could give one of the bottles as prep for daycare - save it for when they are there.[/b]

Don't give in on your priorities, but where it fits, let them be helpful.  And thank them for what they do.

My MIL is a bit overbearing but I've tried to make it work for me as much as I can.  I do not take any criticism and refuse to do things in ways that make me uncomfortable, but I certainly am willing to accept their help.  My son is older, but after a few months (things are still too early for you maybe) I was happy to let my MIL hold the baby, dress him, and even play and read on the floor while I was out of the room, say showering or prepping dinner.    Yes, it's about them, but isn't that the best kind of help, the one who loves your child as much as you do?[/quote]

exactly.  OP, can you give, just a little?  You can absolutely be firm and say you're not ready for a long separation, but the fact is kids bond better with the people who are caring for them.  My parents help a lot with my EBF baby, even if I BF they will do diaper changes and burp him, change his clothes, etc.  They also give bottles to help me out overnight while DH is travels - feeding a baby is a wonderful way to bond with them.  We do 1-2 bottles per day (and my baby is younger than yours).  My parents do the bottles and I love that they can share the experience of feeding him.  I bet it's hard for them to feel likethey have a connection with the baby if you're hovering over him.  Would you be comfortable even feeding him, then stepping out for a walk or something? Certainly a half hour separation would do everyone a bit of good. [/quote]

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