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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have to say that you do sound dug in.  How are your parents going to be feeding the baby the two days/week they'll be watching him?  I can't imagine your mother is going to be breastfeeding him.  Why do your parents get to spend so much time with the baby but your ILs don't?  Yes, it's your baby but it's their DS's child.  It seems you're excluding them but other than some 'outdated ideas', I don't see any compelling reason to limit their contact.[/quote]

OP here- my parents don't spend more time with him.  They have never babysat for him since he was born either.  They haven't asked or pressured me about it repeatedly, unlike my in-laws.  They are watching him twice a week when I go back to work because they are retired and are in a position to do so.  My in laws are not retired and never offered.  We are paying for day care the other three days a week. Having my pArents watch him is saving us a lot of money so there is no way we are turning that down!![/quote]

You didn't answer the question about how your parents are going to be feeding the baby when you go back to work. In your OP, feeding the baby (since you are BFing and are anti-bottle) was a major reason why you couldn't leave the baby with your ILs.  If your mother isn't BFing in your place, that hurdle must be going away when you go back to work.

You say your ILs' desire to spend more time with the baby may stem from the fact your parents will be watching him 2 days a week, yet you say your parents don't spend more time with him than they do.  How can that be?  Will your ILs be spending weekends with you?  You also seem angry that they've never 'offered' to provide free daycare.  Would you accept it if they did offer?  I doubt it given your resentment - and I'm sure they pick up on it as well which is why they're probably pushing you to have some time with your DH.  Perhaps it would improve your mood and increase the quality of the limited time you allow them with the baby.

You're willing to send your precious baby to daycare but not willing to allow your ILs' to take care of the baby - for what appears to be no other reason than you're annoyed with them.  Maybe it's your adjusting hormones but you sound like a real bitch.

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