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[quote=Anonymous]The other mom who posted about her MIL using a completely different name? Wow! Shut that shit down, indeed! I would also say "You've made it clear you don't like Tim's name. Let me make this clear: Tim is his name. Please use it." And if they don't? Guess who sees less of you.

OP, this is your parents, right? Just have a conversation about it. Just say mom, you'll never believe this, or maybe you will, but remember when Timmy was first born, I said I didn't care about nick names? Well, the older he gets, the more I've started to not like the nickname "timmy. I think I made a mistake when I said I don't care if people call him Timmy. It turns out I do - I just love his name and really wish people would start using Timothy. I know this might seem crazy. Would you consider humoring me on this one?"

I don't say this because I think "you are right" or it's "your way or the highway" etc. I think you probably made a mistake and your parents, who love you enough to have asked in the first place, probably care about you enough to at least consider it. Of course, you may have to be prepared for them to say "well, gee, he's kind of really become Timmy to us" and then let it go. But maybe you'll feel better just having cleared the air, even if they don't want to change what they call him.

I think part of this would also probably depend, were it me, on how often your parents see Timothy. If it's daily or weekly, then it's definitely worth mentioning. Once a quarter or less? Definitely let it go because it won't stick.

BTW, my MIL uses my kids full names, but I've posted before that she SERIOUSLY wanted her grandmother name to be "daddy-mama." It was not a joke. And also, I call myself (and my kids call me) Mama, and she used to go out of her way to refer to me as "Mommy" instead - mommy has just always grated on me. I confess I made my husband to ask her to stop. That made me feel so so so ridiculous but 10 years later and I'm still glad I put a nix on it. (When I say went out of her way, I mean like DD would say where's mama and she'd say "you mean, where's mommy? She's over there. Oh I just think its' so CUTE when they say mommy..." Knowing that I call myself mama. But, it's crazy that it bothered me as much as it did. (Still glad i nixed it). [/quote]

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