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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To answer your questions:

1.  You don't ask. If she volunteers information, you can ask follow-up questions. If she doesn't volunteer information, MYOB.

2.  You need to be more firm with your kids.  Take them in the locker-room, away from that family, and explain to them that what they are doing is hurtful and rude and they will stop it RIGHT NOW.  Not "try to stop." STOP.  Explain why it is hurtful and rude and tell them to knock it off. [/quote]

WT_? The kids are 4 and 6. They stare at people, things, animals or whatever if they're confused or just curious. Don't assume they have the judgmental intent that adults often use when staring.

OP, I hate to use the phrase "teaching moment", but that's what it is. Or better yet, it's a "learning moment" for you and your children. Whether or not the mom of the SN kid needs help or friends, your own children could use some help to process the world around them. Ignoring people is not "polite". Being respectful and genuinely compassionate is polite. The keys are not shying away from a situation (ask your kids why they are staring) and help them (and yourself) frame questions and conversations in a way that focuses on your thoughts and feelings. 
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"Excuse me. I hope you don't mind the intrusion, but my kids [insert names] and I [name] have seen you here before. Since we're all part of the same community, we'd like to introduce ourselves. [Polite introductions like kids should do with anyone.] My kids asked me some questions, but I don't have the answers. Is it OK if they ask you themselves? [Q&A] Is there anything you'd like to ask the kids about themselves? [Q&A] Thanks for sharing. See you next week!"[/b] If things get awkward or you feel like you said the wrong thing, just apologize. We're all just parents. We're not perfect.

I'm a mom of two SN kids and I'm a visible minority. If I had a dollar for every stare, I'd be richer than Oprah. lol Like PPs have said, everyone's different at some point. That's what we have in common.

Good for you for asking, OP. Enjoy the pool! [/quote]

Are you out of your mind? [/quote]

+10000000000000  That is so offensive.  I don't want to teach your kids.  That is your job.  If you walked up to me and said that, I would cover my kids ears and tell you to F off (and I never swear).  Who do you think you are to walk up to someone and say that, especially when their child is right there?  Would you want us to walk up to you and say, hey, your kid is really XXX, can you tell us why?  If you don't know, just say you don't know to your kids.  [/quote]

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