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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It isn't as easy as some people are making it out to be. Some parents don't mind you asking questions about the child, others think you are a mean, rude, intrusive awful person if you even notice let alone dare to ask a question about the child. Some people accept help, other people think an offer to help means you think they aren't competent or capable. Some people like others talking to them, others hate it and just want some peace and quiet and time with their child. Some people like x, other people like y.

Anytime you are in an unfamiliar situation (for you), it can be hard to be sure how to navigate especially when there are landmines and some parents will explode at you for x, while the next parent will think you doing x is sweet. [/quote]

Why is it necessary to ask questions about the child in order to strike up a conversation? Do you say to others, "Nice weather for the pool. I see you are overweight -- is it because you had kids or were you always like that?" or do you simply say, "Nice weather for the pool"??? I hope it's the latter.
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No, not at all. But some disabilities are limiting, meaning that either you ignore it or you ask questions to see how the child can engage in an activity. You exactly make my point. The poster before you said - don't ignore and other parents on here have said, just ask me! You are saying - don't say anything.

I have a physical disability - it is noticeable. I personally don't mind people asking me questions at all and sometimes questions come up in the context of the activity. Other people completely act like they don't even notice I have a disability which I actually find kind of strange - I just figure those people are super uncomfortable and would feel really awkward so they just pretend they can't see it. I am far more likely to form friendships with people who are genuine and real then people who try to be PC and fake. [/quote]

It has nothing to do with genuineness, it has to do with manners. People don't point out things about others or ask questions about them, SN or not SN. It's just not polite. That information comes with time.[/quote]

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