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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Great ideas about asking questions.  Thanks.  At the end of the day all he wants is to have kids, be a SAHD, and have some one to share his life with.

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be a SAHD?? Maybe he shouldn't mention that to prospective dates. I would think that's a red flag for a mooch. [/quote]

Is this true for women as well?[/quote]

Coming from a woman who is currently holding down a job and has a decent employment history?  Fine.  A woman who isn't working, has a poor employment history, etc.?  Suggests mooch, like they just can't get their crap together or are lazy and think that staying home with kids will be easier.  And if, for whatever reason, kids don't happen--what then?

Personally, I don't care how much money the other person is making, but by 40, you should have your shit together and be able to demonstrate that you are an independent, functional adult.  That means a reasonable employment history, a job or your own business or something.    [/quote]

I completely agree.  Sounds like OP's brother's desire to be a SAHD really means, " I can't get it together and want someone to support me."

OP, why does he want to be a SAHD?[/quote]

[b]He really just loves kids. [/b] One of his jobs was as a case worker for mentally challenged young children.  He loved the work but it did burn him out.  I don't know that he would make a good teacher.  Being a teacher requires a lot planning---that's not a skill that readily comes easily to him.[/quote]

Being a SAHP requires a lot of organization and planning too.

OP, do you think he is really just looking to be saved?

FWIW, I have a brother like this.  He is 50.  I am glad he never had children because it would be a disaster.[/quote]

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