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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have 2 kids 5 1/2 and 4 1/2 we push a little bit but mostly we motivate.  We started to focus on their education about a year ago. Initially, it was a lot of pushing with a little bit of motivation.  We quickly realized that it was not working. We started to look for ways to motivate and that really took off. Now, the older one is highly motivated on her own. She pushes herself consistency. We put high expectations for her and she is beating every one by a mile.  She just finished KG but is doing math on the 4th grade level and reading on 3rd grade level.  This is a result of her consistent hard work. We support occasionally motivate but don't aggressively push. The younger one is less consistent but is also easily motivated.  Both kids are very smart but not "omg doing algebra in 1st grade smart".  i feel that their long term academic success will be related to their hard work, their environment (ie home, school, friends) and not due to a genetic gift of a Newton/Einstein type genius.

I recently found a book that i really liked. It kind of feeds into this thread:
"Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings" by Kenneth R. Ginsburg
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This! There are several books out there on this subject. The idea is that you need to teach your kid to work hard (push himself) for the intrinsic pleasure of doing his best, rather than pushing for As. Working hard is all about intrinsic motivation to do your best, taking pleasure in besting your own performance in soccer, learning for the pleasure of learning. Importantly, it's also about learning to bounce back from failures. The kids who are focused on grades are the ones who get depressed by Bs, who blame the teacher for their failures, and who are at risk of disengaging.[/quote]

OP here- PP love your prior post.  I think when I say push your statement describes how I push.  If the best my child could earn is a B, that's okay.  I'm not okay with a B though if it is due to laziness. [/quote]

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