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[quote=Anonymous]"My side of the family is in a better financial position than their mom's family and they notice the nicer gifts/clothes that my kids sometimes get or when my parents take just the four of us on vacations. They give stepkids gifts for Christmas when we're all together but beyond that do not invite them to family events/trips. "

This is part of the problem.  You and your family do not regard these children as part of your family.  you have to accept that they became part of YOUR family when you married their father.  As long as you have an  US vs Them attitude, they will sense it and not feel included, loved or accepted.  They had no control over their parents age when they were born. They had no control over your marrying their father.  They had no control move moving across the country.  Embrace them and tell your family to do so too, and then you will see a difference.

My Uncle married a divorced woman with 3 children and then they had one child themselves.  We did NOT exclude her children from gifts, vacations or anything else.  When their mother married our Uncle they became part of our family together.  You are doing harm to them by not including them. [/quote]

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