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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd have no problem leaving a 15 yo and a 12 yo at the hotel or letting them roam Disney together if they are responsible kids.  They''re old enough.  I also don't have a problem with you wanting to spend some father/daughter time together.  What makes me uncomfortable, though, is how you detailed your DS's challenges with ADHD.  For me, this changed the discussion from one of having a special time with your daughters to one of excluding him.  I could understand leaving him at home because he's too young to be left alone as your DDs can be but when you bring up the ADHD issues, it's like you're leaving him home because you want a break from him. (FWIW, two of my three kids have SNs and have some experience with wanting a break from the challenge).

If you do take your DDs, I hope you can plan something for your DS where he gets quality alone time with you.  Depending on how 'frail' your mother is, I wouldn't have a problem leaving him with her.  Even 7 yo ADHD kids aren't as difficult to take care of as younger kids.  There's a much greater level of independence - at least there is if you foster it which your DW doesn't seem to be keen on.[/quote]

As the mom of a child with ADHD that has at times been difficult to control, I can understand how that child's presence affects the time you spend with your children.  It is hard, if not impossible, to make time with your kids special for the non-SN kids because the focus is always on the needs of your SN child.  Your activities are dictated by what your SN child can handle.  The time you spend doing things is dictated by your SN child.  Whether you can finish the activities you start is dictated by the needs of your SN child.  To have time that revolves around your other kids, you may not have an option other than "exclude" your SN child.  I think this is perfectly acceptable and I also think it's particularly wonderful that this father recognizes that he needs time alone with his older girls in order to make their time together about them.  I hope he takes this opportunity.  [/quote]

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