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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guy here.  Back in my dating days, I tried dating multiple people...I quit it one weekend in 1997.  I had a dinner date (second) on friday, and a lunch date on Sat. (first), followed by a "picnic" date on Sunday with someone that I liked, but was giving me mixed signals.

The problem came that the Fri. date went well, and she spent the night with me.  At about 10 AM, I realized I had a problem...she wanted to hang with me for the day.  Fortunately, I was able to come up with an excuse....tickets to a day game with friends at camden yards.

But, I really did not have time to clean up before date number two....and I think my pheromones were plentiful, as she was all over me (even though it was a first date).  She came over after lunch, and I had a good time.  Unfortunately, date girl from the night before thought it would be fun to surprise me after the game...and when the second girl was going to leave the two met.  It was not pleasant.

The good news is at the picnic on Sunday, I realized that she might be the one.  And we talked about exclusivity.  (I did not sleep with her then).  About 20 months later, we got married, and remain together today,

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I had a similar experience - I was only dating two women at that point.  I had a wonderful hiking date for Saturday planned with #1, and it went very well.  I was going canoeing with #2 (yes, outdoors stuff was important to me, and I wanted to find someone who genuinely enjoyed doing that kind of thing so it wouldn't end as soon as we were committed) the next day.  I didn't think this was too extreme, and I'd not made evening plans with either for any of the nights.  The hike went so well, #1 didn't want to end the day and invited me over for dinner and that wound up being an overnight stay.  Getting out of there in the AM - the excuse was I've got plans with a friend already - was...harried.  I met date #2 for our canoe trip and all went smoothly, and I have no idea if she picked up on something or what...I cleaned up very well.  But we got caught in a thunderstorm and she pretty much ravaged me when we took shelter for a while.  I wound up spending the evening with her as well.  I didn't get caught but I had no expectations of sleeping with either of them, and stopping it would've signaled missing interest (#2 said point blank she was wondering why I was taking so long to make a move); I hadn't really decided who was a better match for me yet.  It sounds teenage-male-awesome but actually I felt pretty stressed out and gross.  I was very attracted to both, but I was not trying to push sleeping together because I did want to be non-exclusive.  It's not always men who initiate this and try to set the pace for the relationship.  I did date (and sleep) with both of them a little longer - a couple of weeks - but living that double life was not fun - it actually started causing performance anxiety problems.

I was super-lucky to meet two fantastic women, and while I wound up ending it with #2 and am married to #1, it was an embarrassment of riches.  [/quote]

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