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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Gosh I know I am the only dissenting voice here but I really feel like you should suck it up and go with your husband's family. You could still rent on different parts of the OBX every year for some variety. Your husbands parents won't be with you forever and you won't be going there for the rest of your life, certainly.

These people raised your husband to be the man he is, and they don't have a whole bunch of money. I'm sure they provide you with free babysitting while you are at the beach so you can go out to dinner with your husband. I'm sure this vacation allows your husband to reconnect with them in a way that improves his quality of life. It sounds to me like you and your husband have a pretty nice standard of living and your husband at least feels like he owes them.  I think it would be a shame and fairly selfish if you took this away from them.  I mean, a week at a beachfront property at the OBX is too déclassé for you?  Where is your sense of family obligation?  Someday your kids and their SOs may be in the same position, and I hope you can imagine how hurtful it might be to be on the receiving end. FWIW, in my opinion there is no way to break this news to them in a way that is not hurtful, particularly if your family is still going to a beach, just one that is more upscale and filled with richer people. JMHO. [/quote]

These are good points. Sorry, OP, I vote suck it up too. If it really is just one vacation out of the 4-5 you will take this year, it shouldn't be a big deal to you.[/quote]

Ditto.  DH obviously enjoys these vacations with his family and wants to keep doing them.  The only reason that OP wants to stop is because she is sick of them and the location.  Sorry, but this isn't much of a reason.  Given that your immediately family has plenty of other vacation time without the inlaws, there really is no gracious way to stop this tradition -- especially if hubby enjoys it and enjoys providing this for his family.  Even if you could convince him to stop - which sounds unlikely -- you will be the bad guy here and this will negatively impact your relationship with your inlaws.  OP, you should really consider whether a change of scenery for one of your 4-5 weeks of vacation is really worth it.    [/quote]

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