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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP disregard all the I walked 5 miles in bare feet and flipped burgers through college talk unless that's what you expect your son or daughter to do in college. You know what you spend on your child for clothing, entertainment, food and transportation. Apply that formula to college and you'll come up with a corresponding allowance. The kid at Montgomery College or UMD or George Mason won't have the same expenses as the kid at Brown, Bowdoin, Bucknell or BC.[/quote]

OP here and I definitely plan to ignore those posts-although I absolutely expected them.

I'm always amazed that some parents think that creating hardship for their children is somehow better for them in the long run. In my opinion, if you have children who are doing the right thing by going to college (and likely did the right thing all along to get to that point), you should support them and do what you can to help make that time as easy as possible. Being a full-time college student requires a lot. If the children can relax a bit or work during the summer for spending money that's great. But my parents supported me during my 4 years of college without requiring me to get a job and it made that time so much easier.

There will be enough hardships waiting for our children when they graduate and go out into the real world for a job. There's no need to manufacture it for them.

That said, I do take small issue with your contention that students at some schools will need more than others. I think that for the most part, the expenses are the same. If room/board and a meal plan are provided, the name of the school doesn't matter. If anything, I'd think location matters more. The kid going to school in New York would likely need more spending money than the kid at Brown.[/quote]

It's not about creating hardships for children.  They're not children, that's the point.  They're adults in college.  And you're still keeping them spoiled children.  It's fine if you want your adult son or daughter to function as a spoiled child.  To each his own.[/quote]

If that's how you want to justify it, fine! But most young adults still have the word TEEN tacked onto their ages when they go off to college. (You know like eighTEEN)--which is in no way the same as being an established adult who's prepared to support him/herself. College is the time in which they're preparing to do just that.

Besides if your child is spoiled at 18 you've done the parenting thing all wrong. 18 is not the time to try to teach lessons. An 18 year old college student should be able to accept and appreciate (financial) support with gratitude. If not you've failed as a parent.[/quote]

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