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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL is always trying to foist random crap on us.  Our policy is to accept anything that isn't an actual hardship for us to take--like, if we're flying and it won't fit in our luggage, we don't take it.  Then, we get rid of it--trash it if it's garbage, donate it, give it away on the neighborhood listserv, whatever.  If we visit by car, we let her load it up with random stuff she found in the basement and hit the Salvation Army donation box on the way out of town.

Don't keep stuff you don't want.

The spending too much money thing is an issue if you'll be expected to or feel obligated to help her out when she exceeds her financial limits.  [/quote]

+1. We handle stuff from my MIL in exactly the same way.

The only things we handle differently are things she gives us that were actually family items (e.g., her old dining room set). These I refuse to accept unless I am willing to use them or store them because I don't want to be the one who disposed of a family "heirloom." (I use that term very, very loosely.)[/quote]

Thanks.  We will definitely aim to take this approach at a time in our lives when the mere act of doing this isn't causing a strain on us, but we are running pretty close to empty these days, demanding jobs and lives and baby that doesn't sleep well... plus actively trying to remove clutter... loading up the car with this crap and hitting the salvation army box actually IS a hardship to us, though I haven't actually checked for one on the way out of town, perhaps I can do that.[/quote]

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