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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is hoarder giving, not normal giving. With normal giving, the giftgiver understands and tries to gift what is needed: in your case small things that don't add to clutter, etc. Hoarder giving is about control, not about truly wishing to gift.

My mom has hoarding disorder. I have lived this for years. It is not a way of expressing love. It is a mental issue. I do not pretend to like the gifts anymore as my opinion is largely irrelevant. I use Freecycle a lot and just throw out a lot. I resent the work it causes, but it is a mental health issue and I try to keep that in mind.[/quote]
+100 And remember also that most "hoarder" gifts have very little value --check it out on EBay. There are many "collectables" that have a negative value. Most of that stuff you can't even give away. So just throw it away. Hoarders love to make you feel "guilty" for discarding their junk. But that is just a mental illness that they are sharing with you.
Also a BIG +1 on Costco food. Most of it is either perishable or junk food. If I needed a trip to Costco, I would do it myself.[/quote]

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