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[quote=Anonymous][quote]not the op, but i agree that there's no point in getting your husband to admit fault. I'd be pissed too, but [b]for the sake of your sanity and for the sake of your marriage, you need to let go of the idea of making your husband do anything, or behave in a certain way.[/b] Just do what you need to do and work your way around what you see as his shortfalls. If he's irresponsible with your stuff, keep your stuff away from him, there's no need to argue about it. [/quote]

well, I agree as well, but the OP"s husband was insisting on doing it HIS way. Its her laptop, even if he disagreed and thought it would be fine up top, she did not agree, and he should not have made this about him being right.

OP, I get it. Its one thing if he put it up there and it broke. Its another thing that he argued you down from something that you wanted. I get it, because my DH does this a lot. Has to be right, has to be in charge. Anytime  I disagree with him, he tells me that I"m being 'dismissive' of him.  He can't udnerstand that I am not dismissing him or his opinoins, I just happen to hold a different one. Believe me, I use all the right language "I understand that you want X, or think Y, and I can see that point of view, but I feel differently. blah blah blah', Meanwhile he is always more than happy to tel me how wrong I am (sometimes even just saying to me 'wrong-o!).

We have had some therapy in the past for this kind of issue and certainly will again in the future.

as for now, get a new laptop, recover, and at some quieter moment, tell him that you were frustrated because he did not listen to you and what you wanted and it was not his place to make that decision with your laptop. Its not about getting him to admit that he's wrong, its getting him to see the dynamic.

good luck. [/quote]

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