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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I feel your pain. This totally sounds like my husband. He knows what is best on the most ridiculous topics, and I can totally picture him being overbearing and condescending and literally forcing my laptop up in the bin. I can picture having the argument in the aisle and finally giving up so that other people can just get seated already. We actually had a very similar situation regarding a cake yesterday. I call him the bulldozer. I am working on handling it better myself. And I'm sure I am guilty of overcriticizing him. I too would like any ideas on how to deal with this dynamic.

I often think that guys are rewarded for pushing everyone around them relentlessly, often confused for management or leadership. I wish there was an off switch for that when he comes home. [/quote]

OP here.  I am working on this, too.  A couple of weeks ago, I went back and forth about whether or not I wanted to drive (I don't like his car, the route he takes, or the GPS program he uses that picks the worst routes) or if I wanted to stay in th back and play with our toddler (because he doesn't distract her well, and she screams a lot on the car ride when he's in the back).  So, after freaking out a bit and going back and forth, I decided I wanted to sit in the back.  I apologized to DH for being crazy, and said that I had to do all my back and forth up front so that I accept what I know is going to happen with the choice I chose not to make.  We had a very pleasant ride.  We were traveling a ways from home on a weekend.

My step-grandmother told me that she loved my grandfather because he was fun.  He was nuts, but fun.  I decided that DH needed me to be fun and I had to look at these tip ups again like they were adventures.  I often have to remind myself, and I sometimes forget for long periods.  Anyway, after leaving something near Baltimore on the way back to DC, I announced we needed coffee.  Instead of looking at the route and finding a Starbucks near the highway, DH just clicked on the closest Starbucks in miles.  That happened to be north and east of where we wanted to go...farther into Baltimore.  We had a chunk of the day left.  I enjoyed the ride.  We probably passed a dozen coffee places on the way home closer. But, we wouldn't have had that conversation and seen that road.  So, I wouldn't trade it for anything.  On a different day, I would have felt, "Where the **** are you going?!"  [/quote]

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