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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Go to five different specialists and you get five different diagnoses...unless your child is very clearly disabled don't force a label on them when they are infants. Jesus, reading this forum drives me nuts - how readily parents seem to want their kids to have some kind of SN, how everything that's 'out of the norm' must immediately be some kind of SN...

Yes, sure, some children DO actually have autism, ADHD and whatnot else. SOME. But people need to stop looking for diseases where there are just different kinds of children with different kinds of needs. The market for therapy and drugs for children is increasing in a scary way every year and parents seem to be oblivious to the fact that maybe their child is fine and some people just want to make money off of them because after all - what will a bit of speech therapy here and a bit of Ritalin there hurt anyone, right?

Does the fact that your child got diagnosed with autism first, then with ADHD without showing signs of autism anymore not make you the least bit suspicious?!?! How about you let them grow a bit and nurture their strengths instead of always looking for a diagnosis for every behavior of your child. This isn't just for the OP, but for everybody else as well. Sorry for the rant, but I see so many children who are developed perfectly normal and then their parents tell me "Oh, yeah she has ADHD." Does not...?! It makes me so sad and mad and sometimes I have to let it out. -.-[/quote]

PP you are a nut job.  Perhaps you should stop reading the "Special Needs" forum if it gets you hot and bothered enough to make a total ass of yourself.  There is indeed probably an overmedicating of children going on today in the US, but you are so clearly an example of under-medicating.  Please keep your ignorant, misguided rants to yourself.[/quote]

22:56.  Thank you for saying that.  I have never, ever told a poster to "fuck off" on this forum.  But I wanted to after reading the above post

-- signed by a very tired mom of an improperly-diagnosed autistic 20 year-old and an  ADHD DH and DS.  Maybe that poster would like to recompense me for the tens of thousands of dollars I have spent trying to get correct diagnoses for my kids and correct medications?  Or walk with me to the disability services office at my DS's college and help me get him the services he needs to "just get through" the first year of college?  Or the therapy to deal with TEACHERS in private schools who should known better who were just damn cruel to my DS but never thought that maybe, just maybe they were dealing with an autistic child.  Maybe that poster would like to come to my home and talk to my child.  Within three minutes they could tell - even as an ignorant layman, which I assume he or she is - that  my child, now almost an adult, is autistic.  Or perhaps that poster might want to help me as I enter my 60s deal with the fact that my almost adult (well, perhaps never "adult") children will never, ever function as independent adults in society.  Perhaps they might want to come and live with me and help me support them since it is clear that they will never be able to hold the most menial functioning jobs.[/quote]

I think what likely rubbed that poster the wrong way was your insinuation that parents are "looking for" a diagnosis.  It certainly rubbed me the wrong way.  Having my 2 yr old diagnosed with ASD was one of the worst days of my life.  I felt helpless, alone, angry, and extremely sad for my "baby" and worried for his future.  It has been one of the most gut-wrenching experiences I have ever been through, and although I decided a couple of weeks later (after crying everyday in the bathroom at work so that I could still get a paycheck) to learn as much as I could about available treatment for him and force a smile on my face for him everyday because now that's what is most important.  I've already had "friends" of mine question his diagnosis...and I hear things like "My son acted JUST like that when he was your son's age"....or "That's just a normal 2 yr old thing to do".  But they don't live with him...and as I've become more educated...I see where there are definitely concerns that are not obvious to people who've never dealt with this before.  In fact, I wish I were one of those blissfully ignorant people.  I wish I had no idea how to spot the things that now worry me about my son.  But I do.  So for you to suggest this is something that I "wanted"...well, that makes me physically ill.  [/quote]

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