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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you've already gotten the input that your letter is just part of the problem. As someone who has cut off contact with family, I can tell you that you are not there yet. Maybe you can salvage your relationship(s) by taking the steps you mentioned without going through the rest -- i.e., get the PO box, have your mail forwarded (agree, you do not need permission -- just go to the post office or fill out the form online), get your own bank account and phone, etc. Maybe setting up these boundaries will make your relationships healthier and they are probably long overdue.

If you were really at the point of no return, the letter you wrote would make you sick. When you are done, you know it with certainty. I hope you never get to that point. Distance and boundaries may help. Good luck.[/quote]

OP, I just read your follow up and wow, your mom is sick. I take back some of what I posted above. You DO need to distance yourself but also keep front and center in all your dealings with your family that they are nuts. Your mom is ill and will hurt you when SHE needs to. You should be able to count on family for help when you need it, and it sounds like you needed it. Unfortunately, never think of your "family" in the way most people do. They will only  make things worse for you. BTDT. Distance, never ask for help, be cordial, know in your heart you will never allow yourself to get sucked in. I can't imagine someone trying to take my pets to the pound while I tried to rest. Wow. Horrible.

Keep us posted.[/quote]

All you said is true and part of the issue is my family loves to live in denial. After yesterday I'm scared for the future. What if I have children one day and instead of my dogs it's them. What if you lashes out her hatred towards them on me. What if she tries to treat them the same way she treats me. I just can't do this anymore with them. When I was a child they blamed all there problems on me. No one ever listened to me because my mom would make up her own versions of anything that happen and she made me look like an out of control child. When I told my grandfather what's going on he advised me to get away and separate my self. He knows also. [/quote]

Listen to your grandfather. You are correct that this will spill over into your children if you ever have them. Again, BTDT. Work on this BEFORE you have kids.[/quote]

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