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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]IMO, only children tend to be more self absorbed later in life. I have multiple close friends who I love, but who we all describe as "such only children" and the meaning is instantly understood. The only time I've seen only children avoid this is when there is a specific source of hardship in childhood so that they learn it isn't all about them (eg, a parent has an illness). 
Having said this, I don't love the idea of having a second child, but the above keeps me motivated to do so. [/quote]

Your opinion is stupid. It's cute that you ascribe your own personal experiences to the general public. Like you, apparently, I have multiple only child close friends, and none of them are self-absorbed. The most self-absorbed people I know have siblings, in some cases, more than one. I guess -- by your logic that one person's anecdotal evidence = truth -- that means that those of us with siblings (including me) are way more self-absorbed than only children. [/quote]

Hence why I said my opinion. I don't assume it's your opinion or your experience. My point was that my experiences shape my [b]personal[/b] opinions which in turn shape my behavior. Quite logical actually. Your unwarranted aggression is intense though... Good luck with that. [/quote]

I'm not the poster you are responding to. However, I think it's shitty and mean of you and your friends to use "such only children" in a derogatory and insulting way.

Therefore, it is my [b]opinion[/b] that you are an a-hole.[/quote]

Apologies, it really isn't meant in a mean spirited way by anyone in my group of friends, but just an acknowledgement that we all come from different places, have different quirks, different personalities and different strengths and weaknesses. Wasn't meant to be offensive and was just contributing my two cents b/c as I said, the idea of having just one child is very, very appealing to me. I'm surprised by the vitriol, but like I said, wasn't trying to be hurtful or offensive to anyone here. How it is referenced in my friend group I am completely comfortable with, but guess friend groups have nuanced dynamics that are tough to convey in anonymous forum posts.

For what it's worth, I do not at all judge a parent who decides to only have one child. And would never dream of it being my business to ask when or if another one was planned. [/quote]

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