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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No good ideas, but....

To all the people who are saying "just a card" or "tell her how mean she is" -- I'm glad (seriously) that some of you you appear not to have had negative, downright mean mothers who truly can't appreciate anything (including much of life) and take out their negativity through criticizing their children.  I wonder if the OP feels like I do -- that saying any of those things or just giving a card would result in all kinds of hell for herself and her family (including any children she might have).

I've reached a point with my (also mentally ill) mother at which I'd like to say some of what you've said, or give just a card, etc., etc.,  But it's so much easier said than done, and it also means risking not seeing her or my father again and I'm not sure I'm ready for that, either.

Mother's Day is the hardest holiday for me because I have a mother who truly hates her life (and sadly, that includes truly not liking me, as well).  I try to get through it for DC's sake and for my dad's and for the part of me that realizes how much my mother must hurt inside but it is very, very hard to try and celebrate a person with so much anger, negativity, and hurt inside.

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If you can't forgive her, forgive yourself. It's very painful to deal with a troubled mother who hates herself and you, but you can take stock in the relationships you have with DC and your dad. Remember, it's your day too. Try to find a few minutes for yourself and appreciate that you've built a life for yourself despite your mom's discouragement. Good luck and Happy Mother's Day![/quote]

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