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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Obviously I have a huge bias here, but I think that it's pretty fair to leave the majority of the hoopla about Mother's Day focused on the people who are actively mothering children, not the mothers of now grown adults.  Not that those mothers should be overlooked or slighted, but if you've got a baby, a toddler, and an elementary school kid at home, I think you get to enjoy the treat of having a sleep-in and breakfast in bed rather than getting up early and schlepping to Grandma's house to take her out to brunch.

YES! A million times yes! My MIL lives an hour away. She tried to make arrangements like two months ago for us to have brunch with her and her husband for Mother's Day. I'm not a big "it's all about me" kind of person, but when she tried to lay claim on the holiday so far in advance, making a reservation at a fancy place that would not be relaxing as we policed our three-year-old, it just really rubbed me the wrong way. I'M the one actively mothering so it should really be plans with our family in mind and what would be best for us. I have no problem incorporating her, but it was all about what she wanted to do. So selfish IMO. Fortunately, my husband on his own said he was more concerned with doing something for me since our DS is so young and obviously can't plan anything on his own. Driving in a car round-trip for two hours and a fancy brunch with a young child is not my - or his - idea of a great time. We declined and came up with alternate plans. [/quote]
Making plans for brunch and trying to set it up way ahead of time is selfish????
I understand it is  your cup of tea, but dayyyyyymmm.
What in the hell is active mothering?
You have a kid, you are not disengaging a bomb.
Geez[/quote]

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