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[quote=Anonymous][quote]"Roy Baumeister, a social and personality psychologist, argued that blaming the victim is not necessarily always fallacious. He argued that showing the victim's possible role in an altercation may be contrary to typical explanations of violence and cruelty, which incorporate the trope of the innocent victim. According to Baumeister, in the classic telling of "the myth of pure evil," the innocent, well-meaning victims are going about their business when they are suddenly assaulted by wicked, malicious evildoers. Baumeister describes the situation as a possible distortion by both the perpetrator and the victim; the perpetrator may minimize the offense while the victim maximizes it, and so accounts of the incident shouldn't be immediately taken as objective truths."
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Nobody is talking about pure evil.  It is pretty likely that OP's wife has a personality disorder or possibly an alcohol/drug problem.

I'm with the PP who says it doesn't matter if it's the 20th bra he put in the dryer.  Or maybe actually with the PP who said she didn't care if it was a cashmere sweater as I've put my bras in the dryer myself and nothing bad has happened.  Bad things really do happen to cashmere though.

No one deserves this kind of abuse, even if the abuser is kind of broken.  That just helps you understand better why it's happened.

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