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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my case it was me that was having the affair. The OM was also married and we just enjoyed spending time together. [b]We were together just over 8 months and it was in a lot of ways the best 8 months of my life[/b].

Where the problem was is that I started withdrawing from my DH, forcing myself not to like him to the point that no matter what he did for me I would find and point out faults.[b] I realized after a while that while he was trying to please me. I wasn't trying to make our relationship work[/b]. I was trying to make myself hate him because I thought that's what someone in an affair was supposed to do. I realized how horrible I was being to him and soon ended the affair. I started trying more and our marriage seems to be the best it's ever been.

I didn't come clean to him about the affair. But did tell him I was in a bad spot emotionally and apologized for putting him through what I did. That was almost 2 years ago and things couldn't be better now. [/quote]

Pardon me for being unsophisticated, but how can you compartmentalize to the point that you are letting another man stick his dick in you, then going home, having your husband doing the same, then sleeping next to him and wishing each other well before you leave for work in the morning?  What about the OM's wife?  Are you being fair to her or it doesn't matter in your self-centered, feel good world?

You mentioned that your husband was trying to please you, it wasn't like he was some SOB where you were trying to escape and found solace with someone else.  He's lucky not to have gotten an STD from your antics.  And the affair was the best eight months of your life even though the marriage is better than ever?  How quaint.  Personally, if I was your husband and found out, I would leave you in a heartbeat, never to have any communication ever again.[/quote]

Your husband had an affair, didn't he? Direct your anger at him, not some anonymous woman on a message board. As long as you blame the OW (either IRL or by proxy), you aren't holding him accountable for his actions.[/quote]

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