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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This does not sound super smart, just super pompous.

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I completely, totally second this.  OP, he is not smarter than you.  He just likes to drone on with other bores about topics that they think make people around them uncomfortable.  If you are feeling awkward, it is not exactly completely accidental.  That being said, it is probably second nature to him by now so if he loves you enough he will try to be more inclusive.  You should maybe gently try to talk about it.

But it could possibly become a problem down the road if he thinks you are a dummy.

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This is the PP.  Lest someone accuse me of having issues with smart people, I do not.  My DH and I have 4-plus Ivy degrees, including HYP undergrad (for what that's worth).  At my age I have seen a lot.  I am almost twice as old as you, OP.  Philosophy people who can only hang with other philosophy people, etc. etc. actually have a deficiency.  It is called being a social moron.  That may be what he is.  Bookish or not, socially normal people know how to carry a conversation with most other people.

Recognize that your BF may have a social problem, and it may never go away.  The two of you may just stop talking one day.  If he loves to talk, then yes, this is a problem.[/quote]

This.  My husband has a Mensa iq equivalent as well, but never makes me feel left out.  Ever.  Think of Big Bang Theory but I'm Penny.  Some of the things he watches and discusses truly fascinate me but I am so overwhelmed. I may ask questions or try to learn but he never just ignores me. Even if I don't enter into a conversation and there are other women or men joining in, he still makes me feel like I am the only woman in the room. He is still making eye contact flirting with me, holding my hand, grabbing my ass, etc.  Happily married 8 years.

However, I do not get that this is the situation with you. I feel you are equally intelligent, just not interested in his findings. This is not a bad thing. It can work.

However, It won't work if he doesn't respect you. Period. [/quote]

Practically everyone around here can qualify for Mensa. Really. We had a guy come in to interview once who had included his Mensa membership on his resume. We had a field day with it. And then we determined almost everyone in our office could join based on the (low) qualifications.[/quote]

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