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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Some people here are telling OP to try to rekindle or reconnect with H, but he doesn't seem to want to.  Did you not read her post that when she goes for a hug, he is reluctant to give one?  How do you convince him to rekindle their romance if he doesn't want to or even wants to see a therapist?[/b]

As most posters have stated, there is a lot of friction in a marriage when the kids are very young. Happened to us, too.   The underlying problem for us, and I suspect most couples, was expectations and bitterness for whatever reason.

If you can put up with this for another several years, then I guess just grin and bear it and hope things get better.  I think you might find divorce is 10x worse for you and the kids.  Otherwise, if this is now completely unbearable for you, then maybe you can see a therapist alone to at least give you some perspective and a venting soundboard.

OP, have you ever asked him what is really bothering him?  What does he say when you try to talk to him about your marital problems?[/quote]

The same way a husband should stay committed even when his wife doesn't want to be touched or to have a physical relationship. May times on here women say the thought of their husband touching them repulses them and everyone chimes in that in the early years the husband just has to accept this and live in a relationship without physical contact and that he should instead do more work and then maybe his wife might hug him. So maybe OP should do more and then her husband will want to hug her. [/quote]

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